 |
Issue 5
Let The Game Begin
Got Game?
What is "Game"? Why is it that some guys seem to get girls and others don't? This question has been at the forefront of the male psyche for ages. Unfortunately, most men attempting to date women find it frustrating and confusing. Most think they are too inept, unlucky, or unable to date women. So how do such men find a woman and keep her?
The answer lies in what evolved out of the underground dating/seduction community. First emerging in the 90's with the internet boom, it has now become a major industry.
Once relying on scripted material and routines, which left guys stranded after they ran out of things to say, success with women is now approached from a much more natural angle.
Having game is not something you buy, have, do, or say. It is what you are in addition to the way you deal with women. Wealth, looks and cheesy romance are common illusions men hold about the factors that will attract quality girls.
The guy's at Real Social Dynamics present an innovative and enlightening definition of what game might just be. "Game is an expression of an internal state, conveyed by the rhythms you use to direct the energy of an interaction."
Every interaction with a woman has energy to it. Directing this energy allows you to convey authenticity or confidence about your inner self. It is the ability to offer value to a woman rather than passively accept a woman's validation.
In other words, learning to be independent of an interaction’s (with a girl) outcome, while simultaneously moving the relationship forward. This is what can commonly be confused with the typical "jerk guy who doesn't care." It's not the jerk-ness that is attracting the girl, but rather his lack of neediness.
A woman will pick an exciting challenge any day over someone who bores her.
Step One is to get the right mind set. Not needing validation from women but rather bringing her into your reality, while adding value to her life. This is what I call the 21st century man. This is huge guys, no neediness, no begging, don't be a wimp. The key is to understand the way interactions work. You cannot get a girl until you spark attraction with her. Before connecting on an emotional level she has got to be interested, and the good news is you can make that happen.
Step Two is to understand the female mind. Most men don't understand the opposite sex’s psyche. Men tend to think in a plain manner, and are straightforward and logical with their actions and interpretations. Women on the other hand notice many more subtleties and inferred meanings, and tend to be highly intuitive.
This means they can detect the kind of confidence you bring to the table before you even finish your introduction. How do they do this you might ask? Women are reacting to what is known as sub-communication. Sub-communication pertains to the subtle messages you subconsciously communicate about yourself that a woman picks up on. So what types of sub-communication should you be sending?
Evolutionary Psychologists suggest women are biologically wired to respond to certain "fitness indicators" that make the male more genetically preferable. Academic Scientific Research as well field social experiments around the world increasingly suggests raw attraction is consistent throughout all cultures. A major key to ‘Game’ is tapping into a woman’s raw attraction switches.
These switches include: Confident Body language, strong vocal projection, eye contact, humor, the ability to raise a woman's emotions, being someone they can admire and respect, the mannerisms of a person desired by woman, the ability to connect with her on an authentic level, decisiveness, leadership characteristic, captivating story telling, a strong mental frame, an interesting life story, a unique and authentic style, being able to read her subtle cues, not being afraid to escalate the interaction physically when she sends the signals, projecting intellect in creative ways, and spontaneity .
Finally and perhaps the most important step for you to do is get off the couch, turn off the Xbox and start approaching girls you’ve never met. Start by saying "Hi I just wanted to meet you, I'm..." Keep approaching women, start portraying good fitness indications, and you will start to notice patterns with some patience. The game of love has its ups and downs. Knowledge is power, and ignorance isn’t bliss. Hopefully you now have a little more knowledge and direction to find the girl you’ve been searching for.
- André
